What is happening
The back seat is the most common thing skiers ask about, and almost every other symptom ends up pointing at it. Your centre of mass sits behind the middle of your foot. The tails take most of the load, the tips go light, and the ski turns less than you asked of it.
You feel it at the start of the turn. The skis are hard to get across the hill, the tips do not bite, and you end up steering with your feet instead of letting the ski turn. By the end of the turn you are tired, and you may get pushed further back.
Why it is hard to fix by trying
Telling yourself to lean forward rarely works, for three reasons. - You can only move forward as far as your ankle lets you. Limited ankle flex is the most common cause, and a stiff boot or too much forward lean can make it worse. - Fear pulls you back. On a steeper pitch your body leans away from the slope to feel safe, and that is exactly the wrong direction. - You do not feel it. Many skiers think they are centred when a video shows them well behind their feet. Instructors report the same about themselves.
What forward actually means
Forward does not mean diving at the tips. It means your hips are over your feet, your shins are pressing lightly on the tongue of the boot, and your hands are in front of you where you can see them. You want to stand over the whole length of the foot, not the toes.
How to test it
The visual above shows the model stance for sitting back, with your centre of mass behind the foot, next to a centred one. Check yourself the same way. Film one run from the side. Look at whether your hips are over your boots at the point where the turn finishes. Then compare it with a run where you press your shins forward at the start of every turn.
If you have good ankle flex and a centred stance on a flat run but you go back on steeper terrain, it is likely fear and terrain choice. If you go back everywhere, it is more likely the boot or your ankle.
One caution
Too much forward lean in the boot can put you further back, not forward, because the boot forces your hips back to keep you balanced. So do not add forward lean without testing it with a fitter.